SAY IT ANYWAY

Have you ever been in a situation where doing the right thing could cause you to lose someone you love? At least the perception is, by doing the right thing that person will fault you. Often when having to make a decision of this magnitude it is not really about the other person but about you. Suddenly we realize we are not sure if we want "the monkey on my back". If telling the truth will cause a few moments of heartaches and tears isn't it better than a life of misery? Sometimes being the bad guy is a good thing. I mean I'd rather be disliked for a moment than to watch a love one suffer for a long period of time. The truth hurts (sometimes). The truth is freedom. The truth is relief. We should never be afraid to "tell" a love one the truth about something we know may cause heartache or harm. It is then in their hands to make the right choice. Their choice may not be what we want. "When it is in your power, don't withhold good from the one to whom it is due." (Proverbs 3:27) We can only do the right thing if it is from the heart and not the head. If by poking your nose in somebody business is out of spite and it'll give you a good laugh or " I told you so", that is not a reason. Let us not forget "Do unto others as ye would have them do unto you." We can only be true to ourselves when we are true to the ones we love and care about.

NOT ABOUT ME

One of the most defining moments in my life was when my daughter,Alexis was diagnosed Autistic. I was totally lost, functional but lost. I could not understand, did not understand. WHY me why now? Suddenly I realized it was not about me. This was much bigger, bigger than the eyes could see or the ears could hear. Out of this I found peace, joy and happiness. Wait a minute, did I miss something you ask?
No, absolutely not. When I took me out of the equation and let a higher power (My GOD)control the situation then and only then could I see. He guided me to places and people I needed to work through this journey. It made me realize that when I am not focused on Him everything is out of control. He gave me the strength to be her strength. Through all of the bad days, the sleepless nights, the bouncing off the walls if you will, I wouldn't trade nothing for my journey. I guess what I'm really trying to say is don't sweat the small stuff even if the small stuff is a mountain. Now I understand: "Trials come to make you stronger." Don't let the situation control you, control the situation and God will handle the "small stuff."
Alexis is doing extremely well. She has come a long way and is making progress everyday.

OK, I SAID IT

I'm going to put myself out there...yes I'm single. The one thing I get tired of hearing is "WHY you don't have a man?" 'Cause I'm not looking for one.(Did you detect head moving and eyes rolling?) BREAKING NEWS: EVERY SINGLE PERSON IS NOT LOOKING. Have you ever thought that maybe we like being single. Or better yet we refuse to SETTLE . You know what they say I can do bad by myself.I DON'T need a man to complete me. I've already been made whole by the only ONE I need validation from. What I need, when I'm ready to allow a man in life, in my space, is a man who don't mind being my friend. I'm not hatin' because some of my best friends are married or in long term relationships. They are happy and I'm happy for them. The point I'm trying to make here is: it's okay to be single until you chose not to be. Oh yeah, one more thing because I don't have a man I'm not lonely or sad; I'm just waiting until I'M READY.

Who Are You?

Who are you ? A mother, a sister, a friend, a lover, a father, a son, a teacher, a teller, a barber, a banker of course the list could go on....but does it truly answer the question: Who are you? Of course these titles are a part of us but do they best describe who we are as a person? If so what does it say about us if we are not THE best friend , THE best father or THE best what ever. How can we define who we are by not being something to someone else.... There are times when WHAT I am is not WHO I want be....Is it safe to say that at times we are not sure who we are...As I write this I am searching for a way to best describe myself by not being anything to anybody because sometimes I want to just BE....STILL....JUST BE.....I guess I can say I am LIFE, I am LOVE the product of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.